It’s not uncommon for divorced parents to not get along. There is clearly a reason they are no longer married. However, sometimes, one parent cannot seem to get past their anger and will act out towards the other parent.
For children of divorce, it can be a traumatic experience when their parents cannot cooperate. Courts agree that a child should have a loving relationship with both of their parents, which means joint custody arrangements are more favorable in the court’s eyes.
While co-parenting effectively is better for the child’s mental and emotional well-being, sometimes it can seem impossible to do. However, by following these co-parenting strategies, divorced parents can make sure their child remains the primary focus.
Set Boundaries
Any communication with an ex-spouse or partner should be focused on the child. If one parent notices their child’s other parent is trying to engage in discussions about anything other than their child, they should ignore these remarks. Instead, they need to redirect the conversation and let them know that they are only interested in speaking about the needs of their children. Clear boundaries will help co-parents understand where they stand with each other.
Use a Co-Parenting App
If every conversation ends in an argument, co-parents should consider using a co-parenting app. When children are exposed to fighting, it can be detrimental to their mental health. In fact, research has shown that children who are exposed to their parent’s conflicts are more likely to suffer from behavioral issues.
Co-parents should do everything they can to keep arguments away from their children. A co-parenting mobile app is perfect for this. There are several apps available on smartphone devices that allow parents to communicate strictly through the app. The purpose of a co-parenting app is that it forces parents to think about their child’s needs rather than their own. Additionally, there is always a written record of what each person says in the app, which can be used in court if needed.
Be Flexible
Co-parents should try to keep to previously agreed on custody schedules as much as possible. However, both parties should be flexible and open-minded when appropriate. For example, one parent has a special event they want to take their child to, but the date of the event isn’t during their scheduled visitation time. In a situation like this, the other parent could be understanding and let the child go to the event. In cases like this, it’s about putting the needs of the child first.
A Court Order Should be Filed
One of the most effective ways to reduce tension with co-parenting is to follow the court-ordered custody agreement. Florida courts ultimately want children to be in an environment that best encourages their physical, emotional, moral, and mental development. If the court gets involved, they can help ensure that the child’s best interests are the number one priority.
Be Respectful
A flexible custody schedule is great when the child has the ability to foster a healthy relationship with both of their parents. However, in some cases, one parent completely disregards the custody agreement. They start making plans that prevent the child from seeing their other parent.
Eventually, it’s excuse after excuse; the other parent starts to see their child less and less. When the custody schedule stops being followed, it’s easy for one parent to feel resentful of their child’s other parent. They are frustrated because they are no longer seeing their child during their scheduled time.
The problem with this situation is that it just hurts the child because they are not able to have a meaningful relationship with both of their parents. To prevent this from happening co-parents should always be mindful and respectful of the other’s time with their child.
Is Your Co-Parent Not Letting You See Your Child?
As a parent, you have the right to see your child. If your ex-spouse or partner is not following the custody order, the Law Offices of Jonny Kousa, P.L. can help. We will provide you with the representation that you and your family need. We understand how important your child is to you, and we are ready to be your advocate at this time.
If you need help with a child custody order, call The Law Offices of Jonny Kousa today at (954) 626-8071.